A straight man’s guide to coming out
Craig Brown shares how a former straight man realised he was as gay as a parade, and what he’s learned three years on from coming out.
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Whether it's personal stories from men like you or it's a bit of info to quench your thirst for knowledge, I've made a start at putting together some pieces you might be interested in. Don't worry, most of them are short and sweet. You could read them in the time it takes to make a cup of coffee. Got a particular topic on your mind? Check out the tags on each article. Click a tag and you've got yourself a mini reading list - boom!
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Faith and a capital G
This story is from a podcast brought to you by Australia's LGBTQ community media organization, JOY.
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Married, with Kids?
He said 'Look mate you're gay' and I found myself saying 'Yes, i am' for the first time...
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Educational
What does undetectable mean?
You may have noticed the term ‘undetectable’ being used in some guys’ profiles on dating or meet-up apps or websites. B…
What exactly is same-sex attraction?
Whether you've noticed your same-sex attraction earlier, or maybe a little later in life - not to worry! This is a…
Four questions to ask any guy you meet online, before you meet up
You’ve found the online trifecta: he’s sexy, he’s local and he’s keen right now. But don’t book the Uber just yet.
What is Bisexuality?
It's Bisexuality Awareness Week! But what exactly is bisexuality?
What’s the deal with hooking up right now?
It won’t be forever, but for the time being coronavirus is impacting the ways we live, the ways we work and the ways we…
Sending nudes and filming dudes: a guide for law-abiding citizens
Swap pics? If you like to take or share intimate images, here are a few recent changes to the Australian legal system t…
Virtually hooking up: a beginner’s guide to online sex
There are times when, no matter how much you want it, the safest sex available to you is the stay-at-home kind. Whether…
Beat Safety
A beat is a public place where men meet for sex. Many men use beats as a way of meeting other men – it is a practice th…
Coming out later in life - What's involved? (Part 1 of 2)
Coming out is a difficult journey for everyone, regardless of your age. This is a rough guide on what to expect and how…
Coming out later in life - What's involved? (Part 2 of 2)
Coming out is a difficult journey for everyone, regardless of your age. This is a rough guide on what to expect and how…
Think you've been exposed to HIV? Get PEP!
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PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis) is a month-long course of drugs to help prevent HIV infection that is taken…
Safe Cruising
This article is for guys who are new to sex on premises venues (SOPVs) and want to try them out! We will explore the do…
What is Internalised Homophobia?
Homophobia is good for no one. When you’re trying to figure out your own same-sex attraction, any pre-existing prejudic…
Preventing HIV
There are more ways to prevent and treat HIV than ever before. Despite this, it’s common for guys to feel intimidated b…
What kind of treatment is available for Anxiety and Depression?
There are a number of ways to tackle depression and anxiety, and with your doctor, you’ll suss out the best way for you…
What can I do to feel better?
Looking to make a change?
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What is Depression?
Been feeling down or moody?
If you’ve been feeling this way for a while, and you’re finding that things that you’d usual…
What exactly is Anxiety?
Feeling stressed or worried?
Sometimes it feels tough just to keep your head above water. Life throws a lot at us as we …
What is stigma?
Men who feel they have to hide their sexuality can be victims of stigma, as can men who are living with a mental health…
Personal Stories
Tom’s Story
Recently, one of the guys from our online community submitted a bit of his personal story to share…
Sam’s Story
Sam (not real name) began to acknowledge his same-sex attraction following the birth of his third child. Sam coped with…
Dan's Story
Dan shares his ongoing struggle between his heterosexual lifestyle and the ever-present desire to explore his same-sex …
Tony's Story
Tony shares his story about coming out to his wife and daughter after nineteen years of marriage and the acceptance and…
Ryan's Personal Story
Ryan (not real name) explores coming to terms with his same-sex attraction while married with two kids.
Neal's Story
I grew up in a rural town in the seventies. At a young age and certainly into my teens I knew there was something going…
David’s Story - Part Eight: “I’m much more content within myself.”
The final chapter of David's story. After a tumultuous four years, David has rebuilt his life and achieved some re…
David’s Story - Part Seven: “I’m really grateful for my sexuality.”
When he was ready to come out to his workmates, David chose quite a dramatic way of letting everyone know.
David’s Story - Part Five: “I pretty well left the house as it was.”
David and his wife came to an amicable decision to separate.
David’s Story - Part Four: “I thought I just needed a heterosexual relationship.”
With his Christian beliefs, David believed that through a good and faithful marriage he could overcome his homosexual f…
David's Story - Part Three: "If that's how you are we still love you."
Before getting married, David took the courageous step of disclosing his sexuality to his girlfriend and to his parents.
David's Story - Part Two: “I went off to every healing service I could find.”
Raised in a devout Protestant family, conservative Christianity was a major influence in forming his views on his sexua…
David’s Story - Part One: “I think I’ve always known I was different.”
David is fifty years old. He grew up on a farm in country NSW. He was married for 21 years before separating from his w…
'We still love each other': meet the man who came out after 20 years of marriage
Steven and Natayna Bloom had been married for nearly 20 years when Steven realised he was gay. What followed was a diff…
Faith and a capital G
This story is from a podcast brought to you by Australia's LGBTQ community media organization, JOY.
Life Is A Disco…